Warning: Explicit language ahead. So sorry. But, well, it expresses the point I was trying to make so succinctly.
One topic we discuss in the class I teach at the jail is how we react when we're called on something and how our reaction affects what happens to us next. We talk mostly in the context of being on good terms with people in the workplace, about not getting fired. And, okay, a little in the context of how to avoid being put in the hole.
"Hey," said a student from the back of the classroom. "If someone gives me shit, I'm going to give them shit right back."
"And then what do you get?" I asked.
He shrugged and grinned, "More shit."